Want to know how to understand and provide appropriate treatment for your teen? The following points may be able to open your horizons.
Often wondered what was bothering mind your teenager? Find it difficult to understand when all of a sudden your son and daughter daydreaming you always feel resentful?
It is a futile effort if you force them to tell what was happening.
The teens really hope that parents can understand them without having to tell a story, although it does not all children are equal. There is nothing wrong if you give the appropriate form of attention to what they want.
1. She needs privacy
Teenagers most do not like it when parents do not provide privacy at all. They also hate it when parents do not think they need it. If your children sleep in one room, give each child a specific area, such as cabinets or tables. Do not search the room for no reason that states that your child is lying or hiding something. "All the kids these days using drugs" are not included in the category of sensible reasons.
2. You as a listener
Many teenagers who want to tell everything to my father and mother, but they do not like to lecture. Sometimes, your teen just wanted to pour what's on his mind, not like you to help in the problems they face. For example, when your son complained about the teacher being unfair, hook him to express his heart with questions of a general nature, such as "What makes you feel that?". Remember, do not suddenly give advice or intervene in the matter.
3. Dating, when you are banning
"I did not tell parents that has been dating for a year because they were not allowed to have a girlfriend," says Marla, 15. "They knew we were often together, but I say that we were just friends." Try to calmly react to it even though it bothered you, instead of making your daughter dating secretly.
4. Bad value
Children do not tell when he gets a bad grade because you say they are afraid to disappoint. Try to understand that the child also has a sense of saturation in the study. When they got a poor grade does not mean they can not achieve good value right?
5. Do not want to discuss sex
According to a survey by the government, 47 percent of middle school students had ever had sex. Let's say your child is included in 47 percent. You are still lucky to be able to do something, such as providing education about sexually transmitted diseases and birth rate control. Do not force in giving advice.
6. He wants you fair
Your child does not like it when you defend her sister on the grounds that she was older. For example, when the youngest child said: dirty, your silence. In fact, when his younger brother's age, the oldest son got a big problem when it said the same thing. It is important to consider the situation in addressing the child's behavior. Your child will respect you more if you are fair and wise.
7. Do not want to hurt
Of course your children who are experiencing hard times will feel worse off if you scold. Try to draw a deep breath a few times to calm down and understand the condition of your daughter. Maybe he ignored the laundry out of duty or restless waiting for a phone call from friend special.
8. Lying to avoid problems
"Sometimes I did not go home for being too drunk to drive," said Aaron, 19. "I lied to them because if I tell the truth, they would be angry." Allowing minors to drink alcohol was not a wise action. However, you do not want your child's safety is at stake only to keep his home in a hurry at night is not it? If the child picked up a call and ask, save the question and your advice for the next morning.
9. Do not want to age as an excuse
One moment you say, "You're 17 years old, be more mature." Namaun, at other times, you will say, "You're not old enough to do it because you're still 17 years old!". Because "age-appropriate" is something relative, use the more obvious limitations, such as "Every member of this family went to church every Sunday."
10. Want to be trusted
If you do not trust your son or daughter, they will feel you have more faith in what others have to say than the words. If you accuse of origin and this continues with baseless reasons, the child will eventually be fed up and do something dishonest. Believe in your child before there are strong reasons that require that you do not trust him anymore.
